Who has not ever been angry? Everyone has found, at some point, screaming at someone without knowing very well why. And is that ... Why do we shout when we get angry? In this post we answer this question.
- 1 What is the reason we shout when we get angry?
- 2 Consequences of angry screams
- 3 How to control this reaction
What is the reason we shout when we get angry?
The shout is one of the ways that we humans have to express ourselves in many aspects of our lives. We do it in many moments and situations: when we are happy, when we want to draw attention, to express pain ...
However, one of the situations in which it is more frequent that we shout is when we get angry. This type of reaction is very common and It can be even more unpleasant if accompanied by bad words towards the person to whom we direct our screams.
The screams produced by anger are the result of poor management of feelings and emotions. It is usually a way to convey negative emotions that have either been contained, or who feels them has not been able to channel them.
One of the reasons we tend to scream is because we have been educated in an environment in which our parents addressed us in this way. It is shown that a child who hears screams on a regular basis will tend to repeat that pattern of behavior in your communications once you are an adult.
Consequences of angry screams
We must be very careful when we shout at other people, especially if these are our loved ones. It is precisely with they with whom we usually feel freer to throw expletives, since we have enough confidence to do so and have the assurance that the relationship will not be broken later.
However, this is not quite like that. Shouting at people around us has multiple negative consequences, especially if they are people we live with on a daily basis, since it is a resounding way to break communication.
Through the screams we are verbally assaulting our interlocutor, so this will tend to adopt a defensive position to avoid our attack. It may also happen that the other person directly does not want to enter into an argument and does not respond to our screams.
This would undoubtedly be the best reaction to an attack of this kind: respond with silence. Hence the famous phrase that says "two don't fight if one doesn't want to". And it is that entering that circle can be very dangerous and, in the vast majority of situations, we will not get a satisfactory answer or a solution to the problem.
It is preferable, therefore, to wait for the other person to calm down and not enter into a dialogue with her until she speaks to us in an appropriate tone, whatever the reason that might have triggered such a reaction.
How to control this reaction
Whatever the reason we shout when we get angry, it is important to know that this type of reaction is something that must be changed as soon as possible if we want to be happy and live more serenely. In this way, we can have as healthy social relationships and with our relatives as possible.
The important thing is to detect if it is a reaction we have with someone specific or in a specific context or if, on the contrary, it is something that is part of our daily life. In the latter case, we have a very long job ahead to change this.
The first thing to start controlling is to avoid entering conversations when we perceive that we will react in this way. That is, if we are very angry, it is preferable to leave the conversation for another time, give us some time to think, to meditate or even occupy our head in some task.
Surely after doing this, we will be calmer and we can maintain a much more constructive dialogue with the other person. Above all, we will have to address it assertively. This is, defending our point of view, but always respecting that the other can have a different view about the same.
This is not an objective achieved in one day, but it requires a conscious effort and a lot of perseverance. However the self control It is possible and every little step will offer you a reward: to see how there are other ways to deal with situations and obtain greater success when trying to solve them.